Children learn to make responsible choices by practicing with small ones from the time they are toddlers. Adolescence is a time that this drive for independence becomes very strong, but the teen is not ready for full self-reliance. As a parent it is important to give the choices when appropriate. Try letting them choose which chores they will do each week. Praise them when they have completed them on time and for being accountable.
It can happen that to get your child back, you may have to send her away first, said Maxym. When kids are so completely given over to defiance, out-of-control behavior and self-destruction, she advises parents on which programs to consider when staying home is no longer the best option.
I just found out that my child would need to take a test to get into the school we want her to go to next year. What should we do to help her prepare?
The tests you are referring to are readiness tests, and they are used for class placement and curriculum planning.